Ilka’s Life Story
“My name is Ilka Rosales. I was released from prison on June 4, 2019, after serving 25 years for a crime I
committed in 1993. My parents worked a lot to provide for my younger siblings and me so with learning that quiet
behavior and not always having my parents to talk to I became a stuffer and developed abandonment issues. That
caused me to become an angry child who threw tantrums and did anything to get the attention of family and
friends. With having abandonment issues, I learned how to manipulate to be seen and get the attention of my
I was not heard, so I felt unsafe and I started fighting back and ended up fighting and getting suspended a lot
at school. As I got older, I was angry and became insecure thinking that I was not good enough or loved. I
became a bully in the years to come. When I was 14, my cousin was molested by a family friend, and the
individual was never arrested. My attitude was further fueled because I believed police weren’t doing their job.
From then on, I carried a gun everywhere I went. Sadly, this didn’t prevent me from being raped one night too.
I was a teen out of control and began a downward spiral. I got involved in gangs, street racing, drinking, and
getting high. I enjoyed violence; it felt good to be bad and it seemed like everything was great being part of
my gang until one of the guys raped my friend’s 12-year-old little sister. After that our gang had a meeting,
and we decided to take matters into our own hands resulting in the death of that young man.
I served 25 years and it took 20 of those years for me to finally decide that I wanted to change. After my
grandmother’s death and my mom getting sick I started to realize the damage I did and how much I just wanted to
be with my family. I met Ms. Phyllis from TFCF a few months before I was released when she would visit the
prison every month. Because of her, TFCF accepted me into their Positive Futures project and single women’s
shelter. I was so relieved with their support, after serving 25 years I was afraid of what society would be like
and had anxiety on a new life in the free world, but TFCF was there to guide me every step of the way.
After being incarcerated for so long I did not realize that I was institutionalized. TFCF supported me with no
attachments and helped me learn how to be free. They understand what it feels like being incarcerated and know
exactly what I needed. Throughout my discomforts, outbursts, trials and tribulation, and character defects TFCF
continued to lovingly support and guide me. I have been able to receive one-on-one therapy, get 24-hour care
when it comes to my needs or questions, and best of all they have provided me with a safe, stable, healthy place
I’m also grateful for the Positive Futures program. Without it, I would have never gotten the opportunity to
come to Time for Change. This program is non-biased or judgmental with their clients, and they still remain in
your life and check in after you leave. What I love the most is the fact that they are such strong advocates for
injustices. They do not sit back and talk, they DO, and they continue to do! Without help and support, a
successful reentry into society is almost near impossible. The list is endless, but the main support that I have
received is and will always be the most valuable: moral, emotional, physical, spiritual, and loving support.”
Eileen, a mother of three came to Time for Change Foundation in September 2019 after being homeless. At age 35,
she never expected to be bouncing from home to home just to have a place to sleep. She also never thought she
would lose her children due to drug addiction. Her 2 older children lived with their father, and her
five-year-old daughter was in foster care. Drug addiction
intensified and toxic behaviors with it. “I lost my job, and I needed to make some money, so I started doing
what I could to survive.”
In September 2019, Eileen entered Time for Change Foundation and on October 1, 2019, Eileen reunited with her
daughter at the San Diego Courthouse! She brought her daughter home to our Sweet Dreams shelter the same day of
her hearing. “My daughter could not stop kissing me and was all over me that day, I cried tears of joy because
now we have a place we can call home!”
Since coming to Time for Change Foundation Eileen has learned the meaning of stability. Having a home to come to
daily has made all the difference in her life and has helped her maintain her sobriety.
“For the first time, I am doing things that I never thought of doing. My little one is happy and stable, going
to school and spending quality time with a mother that loves her. I now believe in second chances and this would
not be possible without Time for Change Foundation!”
Angie was born into a dysfunctional family. When she was four years old, she started being molested by her
mother’s boyfriend. This went on for years until her father was granted custody of her. When Angie was twenty-
two, she had her first child. Her life was looking up. She had her own place, a job, a car, and was
self-sufficient. Seven years later, she had her second child and then was introduced to methamphetamine.
She was using drugs until she was six months pregnant with her third child. Then continued back on it right
after she was born. That is when her life started spiraling out of control. She lost her apartment, went to
jail, and lost visitation with her children altogether.
After being released she was able to regain custody of her children but had nowhere to go, they moved in with
her uncle, who ended up molesting her son. Her only choice was to move in with another family member, who was a
drug dealer. Although Angie wanted a better life for her kids, it only got worse. Her addiction and her life had
gotten out of control.
Nothing changed until her oldest daughter came to her and begged her to stop. She pleaded that she wanted her
mother back! That is when she realized it was time to change. In August 2019 Angie made the call to Time for
Change Foundation and was immediately accepted. She and her three kids packed what they had and came to San
Bernardino from Fresno.
Angie now has 9 months clean and sober. Since coming to TFCF she and her children are happy and healthy, getting
all the resources they need to heal from their past. Having stable housing has made all the difference in her
children’s’ lives. Her oldest daughter Talaya got all A’s and one B on her recent report card and has been able
to focus on being a teenager. Once again, Angie is the mother that her kids remember. She is a leader, a role
model, and a positive member of society. She is accomplishing her goals one day at a time and is on the road to
self-sufficiency once again!
Brighter Futures: Carde’s Success
Carde Taylor was released from prison on March 20, 2019, after doing over 20 years. She went to Crossroads
International Program in San Diego for seven months then transitioned to the Bay Area after being offered a
position with Young Women’s Freedom Center in Oakland, CA. Moving to a completely different city on the opposite
side of the state was a scary thought, but after serving so many years in prison with convictions on your
record, not being able to find a good job is worse!
Carde came to Time for Change Foundation’s (TFCF) Brighter Futures home on October 1, 2019, making it possible
for her to have a successful transition. Her goals are to enroll in online computer classes in the following
semester and to save enough to have a place of her own, further her education and continue to build stronger
Since being with TFCF Carde has been consistent with working towards her goals. Currently, she is a certified
AOD Counselor and is counseling youth in her chosen field. Carde’s knowledge and skills in counseling has also
helped her be supportive of the other women at Brighter Futures and in the community.
Carde has expressed that Brighter Futures has made it possible for her to have a job, if it were not for Time
for Change she would not have a home!
Released from incarceration in June of 2020, Amber was driven to find a better way of life, but was unsure of
where to start. On her acceptance into Time For Change Foundation, she eagerly completed program classes such as
Financial Literacy, Entrepreneur Mindset, and Employment Development. With her newfound knowledge on budgeting
and saving, she was able to improve her credit score, and buy herself a car. Amber learned to craft a resume,
and cover letter. Her hard work and eagerness to improve herself led to TFCF offering her a position as a Peer
Mentor, working with our clients to encourage their growth. “If I can do it, you can do it to!”
Despite her childhood of poverty, and being witness to alcoholism, a biology degree and nursing assistant
position rose LaShana towards success. LaShana came to Time For Change Foundation after a gambling addiction,
and schizoaffective disorder disrupted her life. Diagnosed in 2015, sudden homelessness and unemployment made
her attempts to recieve treatment and medication difficult. The stress of her predicament, and the inability to
attain stable housing created a cycle, where her efforts to improve her life would trigger mental health
episodes, collapsing the progress she had made. After being hospitalized, and therefore medicated, she was
advised to reach out to Time For Change Foundation. With mental health counseling, and the drive to make a
better life for herself, Lashana is taking things one day at a time, developing healthy methods for coping with
her mental health, and looking forward to the future.
The pandemic has impacted my family in a very simple way, loss of work hours. We have tried our best to work as
much as possible to make ends meet, but there have been moments where we’ve come up short, and recently, our
rent has been one of them. We are asking for help because we feel that we have no other choice, there is no way
we could not complete the remaining half of the rent. I am currently not working due to a coworker who tested
positive for COVID. My being near them was enough to be sent home to quarantine, without pay. We really
appreciate the help we’ve gotten in these hard times.
Bianca began abusing drugs at age 24. Coming from a home where her parents used, it wasn’t long before she began
to follow in their footsteps. The consequences were swift. She lost her job, her home and became unstable,
throwing every moment away in addiction. Ultimately, addiction led to her being homeless for 5 years and seeing
her life deteriorate. Irresponsibility led her to miss court dates, medical appointments, and unable to provide
for her children. After going through this cycle for so many years, Bianca knew it was time for change. She came
to Time for Change Foundation in July 2021 determined to leave the past behind her. She and her two daughters,
ages three and one, were provided with safe, stable housing where Bianca can bathe her children and provide them
with three meals a day. She has been assigned a case manager who works with her daily on her self-sufficiency
plan. “At Time for Change [Foundation] I’ve been able to get organized and take the steps my life needed.”
Bianca shares that she wants to be independent, showing her children a different, healthier lifestyle. Most
importantly, Bianca aims to be a sober mother, who loves and takes care her children. She thanks TFCF for the
support, “I have a closet and drawers to put my clothes in. I hadn’t had that in five years, clothes of my own
to put away. That’s structure. This is the most support I’ve had in years, our lives are just better!” After
being at TFCF’s Sweet Dreams shelter, Bianca has successfully completed parenting, has continued to maintain her
sobriety, and has recently gained employment. She has come a long way and the best is yet to come!
Rosanna is very grateful for the impact Time for Change Foundation has had on her life. Thinking back on how she
got here, she remembers being a kid always excelling in academics. For her, school was a means of escape from
the drugs and violence that consumed her household. The daily abuse from her mother and father led her to
alcohol at 12, a discovery she learned, helped to numb the physical and emotional pain. At 14 she was introduced
to Methamphetamine, and weekend use soon turned to everyday addiction. By 16 she was pregnant, kicked out of her
parent’s home, and living in an abusive relationship. At age 18 she got married in Las Vegas and gave birth to
her daughter two days later. The image of a happy family was more important for the young Rosanna than the
reality of her circumstance. While the abusive life she was experiencing at home intensified, she continued her
escape through education, graduating summa cum laude and going on to work in the medical industry. One morning,
after a night of heavy drinking she rushed to work while still intoxicated. Losing control of her car she rolled
six times before walking from the vehicle unharmed. During the resulting 2-year prison sentence a series of life
changing events occurred.
Upon arrival to federal prison, she found out she was 2 weeks pregnant. Then her husband took her 6-year-old
daughter and moved to Mexico, losing all contact with her. Devastated, she
would give birth to her second daughter while incarcerated, allowing her family to take custody to prevent her
entering the system. When released, Rosanna found herself cycling back into
incarceration due to drug use. Her children went into their father’s custody, and ultimately into CPS due to his
own addictions. After her last time in jail Rosanna decided she was ready for change. Reaching out to Time For
Change Foundation she was determined to get her life back on track. “They [TFCF] made it easy, I just had to do
Rosanna entered into Time for Change’s Mt. View shelter in June 2021 where she participated in educational
classes, 12-step recovery, and has learned the life skills needed to reach self-sufficiency. After only a month,
Rosanna gained full-time employment and has opened up a savings. She enjoys her new job and shares, “it’s an
honest living. It feels good to be needed, I’m part of a team and we all work together. It boosts my
confidence.” On October 29th Rosanna moved into her very own apartment after only four months of entering our
program! She now has a home to bring her children to where they can reunite and be the family she always dreamed
of. “I am on top of the world, I didn’t think I’d be able to come so far in such little time. The only way I was
able to make this transition and apply my goals into action was because of Time for Change [Foundation].”
Jessica received her second DUI in January of 2021. At the time she and her son were homeless, “couch surfing”
she calls it, place to place and if lucky, motel to motel. She even left California for a time in 2020, just for
the opportunity for shelter. She was in such a warped mindset at the time that she couldn’t seem to catch her
breath. The stress of her life and a lack of planning or goal setting led from bad decisions to worse decisions.
The January DUI was a revelation for her, as while detained at West Valley she came to terms with her
alcoholism. She was behind bars, clueless as to the whereabouts of her son, and extremely worried about him.
Later she would find out of his entry to the child welfare system, as a ward of the state of California. After
leaving jail in February, she hit the ground running. She knew she had made terrible mistakes but was more
concerned with the effects said mistakes would have on her son. She knew that in the system his safety and
security were on the line. She completed inpatient rehab at Gibson House, but not before three more visits to
West Valley Detention Center. Her alcoholism was a battle, and confusion over her circumstance led to loss of
emotional control and rage.
Jessica entered TFCF on August 1, 2021 with the goal of controlling these feelings, her addiction, and her rage.
After cycling in and out of jail, unable to control her emotions, and coming to the realization that all that
mattered was getting her son back, she set goals for herself and is working to let go of the guilt, and pain
inside her. Her favorite class is Women’s Wellness, as she wants to learn to be better to herself. This is a
very important aspect of her recovery that she says Time for Change Foundation focuses on, the trauma outside of
addiction. Now, Jessica has gained a new view of herself and has gained a positive mindset over her situation.
After only one month of being at TFCF Jessica has gained employment and has moved into her own apartment on
November 1, 2021! It has been three years since Jessica has had her own home, and while this is exciting for
her, she is more thankful at the thought that she now has a home to reunite with her son!
Removed from her mother’s custody, and fostered by her Nana as a youth, Cynthia dealt with neglect, emotional trauma, and abuse as a child. After her Nana’s advanced age forced a return to her mother, she began to witness her mother’s addiction firsthand. This normalization of substance abuse led to more trauma, and a relationship where she would begin using herself for the first time at 22. Now a mother, and still dealing with untreated emotional traumas, drugs became a craving and release from everyday struggles. Cynthia entered into an abusive relationship, where she lost track of the days in her addiction. She lost track of herself. She lost her freedom —multiple times. Ultimately, she lost her children.
However, since coming to Time for Change Foundation, Cynthia began individual counseling, and is now employed. She began visits with her children, and now, they’ve been completely reunified, moving into an apartment together. They attend family therapy, working to create a bond that was missing in her addiction. Cynthia has gained self confidence, and smiles now. “I’ve learned who Cynthia is,” she tells us. She feels freer than she ever has, and gives thanks God for showing her the bottom so she’d find the strength to climb up.
Referring to her early life as a “roller coaster,” Star was determined to be the best mother to her son, Ze’veon. She did everything she could to care for him, but he was taken from her on his very first birthday. “Before I could explain my side of the story, they were driving away with my baby.” She was determined to fight to be reunited with her child. She was given a list of things to do for reunification but after six months, she had missed two parenting classes, and three drug tests. The judge decided to take away her parental rights. Consumed with guilt, Star would immediately fall into a life of recidivism, acting out and finding herself incarcerated within the month.
Two years later she paroled out, only to return within six months. With two strikes and a newly discovered battle against not only addiction, but mental health issues, Star channeled her guilt, and her untreated trauma into blaming others. Expecting a lengthier sentence, she was surprised with early release, and while waiting to meet her probation officer called Time for Change Foundation. At first it was an address for parole and probation but after spending time in the program her intentions have changed. Star is learning how to live a life of structure and meeting all of the requirements to be able to reunify with her son.
Since being at TFCF she now has hope that she can remain out of incarceration, maintain her sobriety, and reach self-sufficiency. This leads to “…the beginning of a new, and improved life. Change is coming.”
Marguerite and her sisters were raised in a home where addiction fueled violence and indifference. At first it was her father, an alcoholic, beating her mother while she hid in a closet. After her father left them, her hope for normal life was shattered as her mother coped by turning to drugs. The spiral down was swift and homelessness became her reality.
By her junior year of high school she was pregnant and herself in a relationship with a violent man. Not wanting that life for her child she fled, pregnant for the second time. After some time she married and had two more children, but the marriage would end after 4 years. Battling through poverty, she took every visit with her children as a gift, and even though living in her car, found work. Marguerite had learned that children under 5 years of age will be reunified with parents or adopted out, but they could not remain in foster care for over 12 months. Marguerite couldn’t wait, she had four children in the system, and three were under the age of 5. She had under half a year to secure her children.
Hopeless, she searched through her belongings to find a business card for Kim Carter from a women at the jail. Brighter Futures led to changing her life. She began overnight visits with her children and in early 2021 was granted custody of her two oldest children. Today, Marguerite is happy, working to better herself. She has put together the pieces of hope shattered so early in her life and “can see brighter futures.”
Britney’s Success Story
Britney had a “good childhood,” though as a kid she didn’t think much of it. Her parents divorced when she was five, and while her father operated a successful business, her mother used drugs and went through a series of boyfriends before landing in prison when Britney was 10. She and her sisters then went to live with their father, and while things were good, Britney became pregnant at 15 years old. When she reached early adulthood, she found herself married with a second child. Her marriage became controlling causing her to fall into depression, alcohol, and drug dependency, and ultimately, incarceration. “I’d go to jail, and tell myself I’d do better, then get out and use right away.” Britney was spending more on drugs than she was on her bills. She believed drugs made her feel better, but couldn’t see the reality of her life through the drug-induced illusion.
Ultimately, she lost everything; her addiction left her with nothing but homelessness. “The last time [in jail] I cried, and I never cried [in jail] before. I prayed and prayed. ‘God, I don’t want this anymore.’” That was a turning point for Britney. When she got out of jail the last time she was referred to rehab and Time for Change Foundation. She decided then to take the first step towards staying clean and sober and getting her life on track.
She came to Time for Change Foundation in September 2021. Since then, things have gone beyond her expectations. She enjoys weekly groups and talking to the other women in the program who understand the things she’s been through. Britney has been able to visit with her children regularly and is working towards family reunification. Her prayers were answered as she tells us, “It’s almost like he’s [God] saying ‘I told you, let me do this for you.’” Britney acknowledges that there is a lot of damage to repair, and she aims to take all the time necessary to heal.
Through TFCF’s Positive Family Future Reunification (PFFR) Program she is participating in weekly parenting classes and individual therapy to help her heal from her past and prepare her to be a nurturing and supportive mother for her children. Britney is on track to receiving custody of her children back and is grateful for the opportunity Time for Change Foundation is providing her!
Josephine’s Success Story
Josephine came to Time for Change Foundation (TFCF) on August 11, 2020, after completing five months at Magnolia Drug Treatment Program. Since 2016 she has lived in various sober livings and has been in six different drug treatment programs throughout Humboldt County. Trying to maintain sobriety had been a struggle for Josephine, but her biggest motivator was her six-year-old son, Michael.
Josephine heard about TFCF from another woman in the program and called immediately. When she called the staff conducted her phone screening and she entered our Brighter Futures home for women and children a week later. Aside from trying to better herself, Josephine battled the child welfare system as she tried to regain custody of her son.
Feeling like she was fighting alone, Josephine did everything she had to do to comply with what was asked of her and after only 30 days at TFCF, she was able to bring her son Michael home. After two years of separation due to her addiction, Josephine finally got a second chance to be the mother her son needs. With the help of treatment and now having a stable home, Josephine has been able to remain clean and sober for seven months.
“I’m so thankful for Time for Change Foundation, my son wouldn’t be as happy as he is here anywhere else,” Josephine shared with us. When asked about what she likes best about TFCF she said, “I love everything about TFCF, everything they offer has helped me, I’ve been in every program, and nothing compares.” Michael loves his new home and expresses to his mom how happy he is now that he’s with her. Today Josephine is going back to school to get her GED and Michael is thriving in preschool.
Trinidad’s Success Story
Trinidad came to Time for Change Foundation’s (TFCF) Brighter Futures homes on October 16,
2019 after being falsely evicted from her home making her homeless with a 13-year-old daughter. She lost all her belongings and struggled to keep her daughter in school. Sometimes life throws a curve ball, here she was homeless, jobless, car-less, and without her most important papers that could help her get back on track.
Her daughter was a straight-A student, she played violin, was on the drill team, and did flags. As a single mom, Trinidad faced so many uncertainties and became depressed because she wanted so much more for her daughter. She heard about TFCF from a friend, unsure of what to expect but more than ready for change, she did not hesitate to call. Trinidad knew she and her daughter deserved so much more than the current life they had been living on the streets.
After two months of being in stable housing, Trinidad got a job on December 5, 2019. She worked hard, attended all of TFCF’s educational classes, began saving her money, and on February 15, 2020, she got a car. Stable housing, support, focus, and faith are what Trinidad needed to become self-sufficient again. Her daughter was able to reconnect in school and together they were thriving and well on their way to the life they both had hoped for, for so long.
Through all her trials, Trinidad did not allow them to stand in her way. With the support of Time for Change Foundation and Trinidad’s unwavering strength and dedication, another one of her many goals was achieved and on July 28, 2020, Trinidad and her daughter moved into their very own apartment! Congratulations Trinidad!
Nortasia’s Success Story
After successfully graduating from our Positive Futures I and Positive Futures II projects, Nortasia has overcome barriers she has faced over the years being a formerly incarcerated woman and reached self-sufficiency.
Raised by her mother while her father was incarcerated for 15 years of her life she did exceptionally well growing up. “I was a bright child, an honor roll student, and in the G.A.T.E (gifted and talented education) program,” said Nortasia. She describes herself as being a happy child, but by the time she was 15 she was sexually abused, raped and human trafficked to the point that she tried to commit suicide. Her sister found her in the bathtub after swallowing over 150 aspirin and she was then diagnosed with bipolar disorder and severe depression.
After years on lots of medication and inside treatment facilities, eventually, hospitalization led to incarceration. Nortasia found herself in a horrible situation because of drug abuse and was facing 15 years to life. “God must have been looking out for me because I got 2 years with half,” she said. Ever since then she knew she had to make changes.
When she was released, she went to Time for Change Foundation and really got the help that she needed. She participated in weekly classes, therapy, work projects, and got help with getting into sober living. TFCF supported Nortasia for six months in sober living while helping her to obtain her identification, gain employment, a car, and eventually her own home! “My life has not always been easy but I’m thankful for my pain because I get to appreciate better blessings, I have in life today, thank you Time for Change!”
Andrea’s Success Story
Andrea grew up in San Jose, Ca in a safe and happy family with faithfully married parents and 3 sisters. She was raised not to steal or lie at a young age. Throughout her youth and young adult life, Andrea struggled with weight issues and obesity accompanied by a bit of the “wild middle child” complex. Andrea says she was always a very hardheaded, willfully, strong-minded girl.
She went to school for her Associates of Science in Child Development and worked as the Director of a Christian preschool for 8 years. At the age of 20, Andrea married her high school sweetheart, her very first boyfriend. She was very young and naïve, following in the footsteps of her older sister who also married young. The marriage lasted less than a year.
The death of Andrea’s mother and the loss of her twin nieces began the start of a deep depression in her life. This took her to a low that no matter what she did or what medication she took she couldn’t seem to pull out from it. This began her substance abuse. Andrea spiraled in and out of parties, alcohol, drugs, and reckless behavior for some years. This path led to domestic violence, unhealthy relationships, jail, and legal problems.
During this time Andrea was in a horrific car accident that broke her neck caused a spinal injury, and caused her to eventually lose her right leg below the knee. This further caused her to struggle with substance abuse. Andrea’s wake up call came after serving 44 days in county jail for a DUI. She found AA and the 12-step program as a way out for the next 6 years. She had 2 beautiful children, Luke, and Donna with her new spouse who she met in AA.
Two years after giving birth to her daughter, Andrea relapsed on drugs and alcohol, followed by depression which led her to bad life decisions, chaos, and more loss. Andrea came to Time for Change Foundation holding firmly to the goal of getting her children back from foster care, correcting her financial burdens, legal problems, and the consequences of her actions.
Currently, she is attending TFCF’s drug and alcohol classes, parenting classes, is part of the PFFR Program, and has since accomplished a goal by resolving her DMV issues and purchasing a car! Her motivator in her journey to self-sufficiency is her children. Next, she hopes to use the structure and stability gained from TFCF to get her own place.
Tantunia’s Success Story
Tantunia grew up in an addiction-filled family with a single mother who worked a lot. By the time she was 19 years old, Tantunia fell in love young, giving birth to 2 beautiful children. She knew she was too young and disappointed her mother. Though the relationship with her mother wasn’t always the best, she helped with raising the children. The father of her children was still around, but was just as irresponsible as her. With addiction and dysfunction being all that she knew, she started smoking marijuana.
At this point, she was meeting the wrong people, living unhealthy, fighting with family, the children’s father, and started to rely on using drugs to cope. Years passed and her mother continued to help financially. The children’s father ended up going to jail to get sober for a couple of years, not realizing that recovery programs were an option. The kids started school, and so did she.
Tantunia was doing well for a while despite never getting the help needed for her underlying issues. The addiction, depression, and traumatic events that happened while growing up led to a relationship with an older man who used drugs. With a lack of knowledge of recovery, she started using again. This time, however, Tantunia used harder drugs. She was 23 when the relationship turned into one of domestic violence. She stayed in this relationship for 2 years without support from family, ended up in jail, and lost custody of her children.
After a year of fighting to gain back custody, Tantunia was introduced to NA and recovery rooms. She left her toxic relationship, got a restraining order, and never looked back. Still fighting addiction, the kids moved to Texas with her mom, giving her time to get sober and financially stable. It took Tantunia 3 years to work on this. She eventually found a partner that supported her sobriety, they got their own place and were engaged. While the couple planned on having a baby, her children came back from Texas.
Soon she was pregnant with her third child but unfortunately, Tantunia failed to stay on top of her recovery. She stopped going to meetings, therapy, and self-care. Even though her family was back together, a part of Tantunia slipped away. Before she knew it, she was pregnant and using. Her baby tested positive. “My decision ripped away my family, home, and stability. My kids went back to Texas, my newborn baby stayed with the father, and I had to leave my home. I was so hurt by my actions.”
After that, she realized enough was enough and entered TFCF on December 9, 2021. Her goals were to reunite with her son, remain in sobriety, become self-sufficient and graduate from a drug and alcohol program. As a participant of the Positive Family Future Reunification Program, she has been given the opportunity to garner the skillset that breaks the cycle of generational domestic violence.
She got her job at Stater Bros on February 10, and a promotion with the company within a couple of weeks! She has completed participation in all of TFCF’s classes and programs: Life Skills, 12 –Step Education, and Relapse Prevention. She is also well on her way to completing and receiving her certificate for drugs and alcohol. Recently, Tantunia went to court and was awarded her rights back to her son, she has achieved her goal of reunifying with her baby boy! Next is getting her own home for her and her son. We are so proud of her!
“I’ve realized addiction is a disease, and I will forever need to stay connected to NA, recovery, and seek help when I need it. I enrolled in drug and alcohol programs and I’m about to graduate. I had a relapse, but am still fighting to remain sober and not be homeless again.”
Rita’s Success Story
Rita is the middle child with an older brother of one year and a younger sister of five years. Both Rita’s mom and dad were addicts. Although they never verbally spoke about it, she was aware. Her mother has since passed after having several years of sobriety. After her husband died, she suffered a hard relapse. Rita watched as her mother’s life went into oblivion. Her mother died in her arms in the hospital after becoming septic from all the poison.
Throughout her teenage years, Rita used heroine all the time. She ran away at 15 years old. She lived up north for a few years before being sent back home. She was living with her grandparents when her grandmother moved to Highland. Rita chose to stay in Rialto, a major decision that altered her life forever. She had no guidance, no authority, no rules. Rita was completely alone.
Not finishing high school, she returned home at 20 years old, after giving birth to her daughter in 1992. Rita was on-and-off drugs ever since, in-and-out of institutions and prison, and in a relationship that overtook her life well into her 30s. Her entire life was based on one man and drugs. In 2016, after a case, she was granted a chance at drug court. Rita graduated from drug court, with honors, and even made the front of the Yucca Valley newspaper.
Rita began working and trying to maintain her recovery for 4 years. But she never really got past her mother’s death, along with several friends soon after. She ended up getting 3 DUI’s and entered Cedar House to get a grip on herself. “You see at 47 years old you realize more than you did at 22. This is me saving myself, this is me surrendering to Yeshua, this is me loving myself enough to save myself. So now Time for Change Foundation is helping me change so that this time will be the last time I fall.”
Rita came to TFCF on January 6th of 2022. She has excelled in our Legal Employment Accessing Profit. The LEAP Program is for formerly incarcerated individuals and individuals impacted by the war on drugs that want to gain employment. On February 25, Rita got a job at Stater Bros. So far, she has received both her 30-day and 60-day certificates for Life Skills. She is also on her way to completing and receiving her certificate for 12-step Education and Relapse Prevention.
With newly found confidence, Rita has now reached self-sufficiency, is maintaining her sobriety, and has since moved into her own home. “I couldn’t have done it without TFCF. Key point is having a place to lay your head and rejuvenate your body is important. You feel a rested body and clear head, so you don’t have to worry about not having a place to go or going back to a place where there are triggers. Having a safe place is key to accomplishing anything.”
Tamara’s Success Story
Tamara came from a family that did things “by the book” to provide for the family, but emotionally and mentally they weren’t there. That caused her to do everything on her own, making her mature at a young age. This made her feel like she lacked things, such as compassion. She chose the wrong men and friends wanting to be liked, no matter how they treated her.
All Tamara saw in her family was struggle. No one really loving or caring for one another, no support, no positivity, just negativity and doom. She left home after high school at 18. She was on her own ever since, struggling to support her children without the help and support from family. Tamara did her best to not be like her family, she wanted to change the narrative, learn to break the habits that would pass down to her children and hold her back, and she was tired of not living up to her best self.
Tamara came to TFCF on January 21, 2022. Along with her 2 beautiful daughters, she had a goal to work toward building a stable income and finding her own home. Tamara has completed 30 and 60 day Life Skills classes, Leadership Development, Mommy and Me, Employment Development and parenting classes.
With an interest in education, she started working on March 11. As a substitute teacher, she has worked in San Bernardino and Chino school districts. Tamara has made her way to self-sufficiency, and has moved into her own place in April 2022. She is proving motherhood is a powerful driving force!
“Moving forward I won’t live in fear or trauma- only my purpose and future. My kids deserve the best of me. I deserve to have more for myself. I will not give up on myself anymore. This program is the start of my journey and I believe God brought me here for a reason.”